I like to make new friends, but don’t know how to start

People tend to think that someone who rarely speak is the ones who choose to not open to the others. Some people also think that someone who rarely speak is the one who doesn’t like to interact with the others — or we can say ‘anti social’.

Well, as someone who rarely speak, I like to make new friends, but most of time, I don’t know how to start the track. When I met new people and want to start the conversation, my mind always questioning the action.

“What kind of question that I can ask to them?”

“Would they disturbed by being asked?”

“Would people be hurtful with this kind of question?”

My mom keeps encourage me to break my fear. Just do anyway, don’t mind about the result. Still, it’s a rocket science for me.

As Stoicism taught, the only thing that we can control is our mind. Everything that happen is about our reaction. I start to manage every feeling that comes like a guess— allow to in or let it go. Holding back my fear — I might miss a great chance.

With applying what Stoicism taught, things would be different. I just matter what I can control, rather than worrying about what I can control.

Now it’s not my fear that control myself. Me — the one who allows it to control or not.